Practical State Application & State Transfer Openers
I am known for having a fun and high energy and when people see me in set they always ask me “How do I get in state?” I always found it an odd question because I am always going out to have fun. But I realized that for some, going out to a club or anywhere with the intention of meeting a girl can be overwhelming. So I am writing this to help people get used to the concept of getting in state, knowing what it feels like, noticing the difference it makes, and how to captivate others by it.
I have never been someone that has gravitated towards “mental self help books” such as The Power of Now or whatever new book seems to be getting guys out of their head. So frankly all the advice I have on “how to get in state” is purely based on my real life experiences.
There are many people out there that want to dispel the concept of a “state” in pick up but let me tell you it is very real and can make the biggest difference in your night.
So I would like to start out by defining state the best way I can, in my own opinion (You may have a different one). “A perfect state is when your inner and your outer actions are equal to or slightly higher than the energy of your environment.”
What this means is that you can be in sate in any environment, however the perfect “state” during day game may be different from your “state” during night game.
During day game, the environment is more relaxed and less demanding of high energy actions. However during the day, many people are repeating actions they do all the time so they have internalized a repetitive social day state.
Girls go to shopping malls and places like Starbucks all the time with close friends so just by entering the environment, they are in a strong social state.
This is what makes approaching girls during the day so easy.
Now I’m sure some of you are saying…”Talking to girls during the day is hard!”
This is most likely because you have never been “in state” during the day
If you have had trouble during opening girls during the day, your state is not aligned with your surroundings.
For day game, you need to accustom yourself with a fun and social state. In fact, to truly stand out in a day game environment, your state should be just slightly higher than the energy of the environment. (But my no means hyper. What it really comes down to is having a GENUINE interest in the person you are approaching. You want to WANT to talk to them.)
Day game is a test of how normal you can be. If talking to a girl during the day is normal for you, your state will allow it to be normal for her as well. If you come in with just a bit more expressiveness, it rises her routine “day state” to a level that is easier to engage.
Like I said, for state to be achieved, your inner and outer actions must be aligned with the environment.
True state cannot be achieved without either so let’s first focus on “inner actions” during the day.
During the day you have to realize that it is okay to talk to girls. Although people are out to do specific tasks, taking a minute of their time is a socially acceptable thing to do.
Why do you think girls spend hours fixing themselves up in front of the mirror, even if they are just going out to grab a coffee… if your are in state (aka, you genuinely believe it is okay to talk to people during the day), these sets will open every time!
When state is achieved, you are out of your head and your inner thoughts are aligned and are not conflicting with your outer actions (zero hesitation), which I am going to cover now.
When you are in state, your outer actions are extremely expressive. Your personality is explosive and people are captivated by every word you have to say. And likewise you have an extreme interest in what the person you are talking to is saying.
This captivation is because in your head, you are not worrying about what you say, and your actions are showing people that you are 100% confident in every move you make.
This also applies to night game but your actions can be louder and more physical. However you want your outer and inner actions to “match” the environment, instead of exceed it.
At night (in clubs) you can do CRAZY things and not exceed the energy of the environment, but there is a fine line between seeming like the most captivating guy in the club, and seeming like the guy that does the most “E” in the club.
I could continue to talk about the feelings of state, how the moons must be aligned, and all the other mumbo jumbo for one to understand state, but I believe the best way to understand state is to put you in it.
You don’t need to know why state or how works. IT JUST DOES. All you need to know it is a response in your body GUARANTEED to make pick-up easier! And I do not believe in the concept of always being in a social pick up state, and if you do I think you are lying to yourself or trying to achieve something impossible. Achieving that would make you a weird person that can not adapt to various social situation and you would be completely impossible to relate to. (Like people that get waaaay to into inner game and think they are at an enlightened level above other people. They end up hurting their game because they think showing any sign of a “normal human” is weakness.
There are plenty of times I am not “in state” due to various factors (stress, illness, other things going on in my life) and its all those things that make me who I am. However, when you go out, I don’t expect people to get to the club automatically IN STATE. it must be built. You can’t just walk into a place and instantly be having the best time in the world.
The easiest way to quickly achieve state and know what it feels like is to push yourself far out of your social comfort zone.
When you are pushed out of your comfort zone your state momentarily sky rockets as your heart rate rises. Then as you begin to relax, your state begins to balance out with the environment that you are in. (Heart rate slows down while state remains high)
Below I am going to list ways to pump up your state. These are recommended to be done on the way to your destination.
10 Ways to achieve state: (You do not need to do these every time you go out. After practicing and becoming accustom to the true feelings of “state” the mere act of going out will be a form of a trigger for being in state. Due these as a quick way to get in state so you can start seeing the difference it makes in your game)
These are just a few of the fun things my friends and I will do to quickly get pumped into state. Feel free to share your own
1) Before going out, go to a local bar that is free to enter. Compliment every single person in that bar. Literally jump from one person to the other as you say something flattering and funny about the next person you encounter. There should be no hesitation on your part from one person to the next, keep moving!
2) Go to the street outside of the place you are entering. Yell “Woohoo!” in front of random people and put your hand up and do not stop till you get at least 10 high fives.
3) Do 5 suicide sprints in a local area. Find a place that is about 15 to 20 yards long and sprint it 5 times in a row. Do not worry if other people are in the area or watching
4) Go into a restaurant or social area that is not too loud. Start a slow clap, as people look at you, make eye contact and nod like they should be doing it too.
5) Tell 7 strangers a super interesting and secret thing about you. The more personal the better. Just say that it is something that you had to get off your chest. If they ask why you are telling them, just smile and say “Why wouldn’t I?”
6) While walking to your destination, sing a song everyone knows the words to. See if you can get people to join in. “Kiss from a Rose” by Seal is always a crowd pleaser.
7) Go up to five people. Hold your ground in front of them and go “Lollypop, Lollypop, Oh Lolly Lollypop. Lollypop, Lollypop, Oh Lolly Lollypop….(See if you can get them to finish the verse by holding an invisible microphone in front of them and getting them to say Lollypop”
8) Say hello to 25 people. Just walk down a busy sidewalk and give a friendly hello to each person. As your state gets higher, you will notice people turning to continue the conversation with you.
9) Approach sets that you would normally dub “impossible”. Ex. If a girl is 50 yards away. Yell to get her attention and see how long you can hold a conversation with her from that distance. Once again, as your state gets higher, no set is impossible to open. With this approach you are “assuming state” until you achieve it.
10) Gather about 15 Snapple fun facts. Try to memorize them or bring them with you and engage at least 6 people. See how many Snapple fun facts you can get away with reciting before they walk away.
I could make a list that goes on forever but I think you are starting to see the point. Push yourself out of your social comfort zone and start realizing how to have fun! Do not get logical on yourself. If you do even just 2 or 3 of these before you enter a club, while in a club, or just out during the day. You will have put yourself in a powerful social state, you will be laughing and having fun. Most importantly, you will not care what others think and the concept of “rejection” becomes non existent.
When you are in state, there is nothing you can’t pull off and opening (often people’s biggest sticking point) becomes the easiest thing to do.
The best way to use your state to your advantage is by using what I call “State Transfer Openers”
Basically the concept behind them is that you come in with all your energy and throw your state upon the girl. This instantly brings her to your level and opening more fun and successful. Only do once you have achieved state, if you are forcing them, they will not work.
This is also a great way to open high energy girls that already seem to be having a great time and are “in-state”
Here are three fantastic “State Transfer Openers”:
1) As a girl is about to walk by, literally leap from where you are to directly in front of the girl. Expand your arms almost like you are going to take her in for a big hug. Radiate a massive smile and let out a loud “Hello!” (When her equally fun explosive reaction occurs, you can introduce yourself and go right for a fun hug).
2) Go up to group of girls. Once they see you walking in, do a quick three 360 spin and go “Ta-Da!” Smile and wait for the wave of high fives that are soon to follow.
3) Dive (Yes, really dive, with a running start and everything) into a booth that contains a set and with a big smile yell “Whats up!” (Credit Sinn). After doing this you will even notice your state skyrocket even higher and usually the groups will match.
The social conditioning of your life has most likely kept you from achieving a fun social state. Society’s rules and so called “socially accepted behaviors” keep people from running free without a concern for what others think.
Fuck the rules, fuck society standards, and fuck the thoughts that hold you back. Launch your state and fuck the girl!
Love,
Heartwork
I am going to attempt to do this thing where I post a picture of myself in field demonstrating the the concept I am writing about. This is my
“In State Picture”
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