Mixed Set Mastery
I did a teleconfrence the other day in relation to picking up girls from mixed sets. I feel it was an amazing call but unfortunatly it is only for mastermind members and I can’t upload it here. If you are on Mastermind and were on the call, here are some extreamly well taken notes.
Special thanks to Lester on putting these notes together! Make sure you thank him!
I noted in my own words but this is straight up Heartwork’s material.
Beliefs about Mixed Sets
People see mixed sets and they think it’s hard or it’s intimidating. Actually it’s not. You can approach the guys and they are much easier to approach than women. Plus you can befriend the guy and he can help hook you up with a girl in the group. Approach with a good vibe and think that everyone is your friend. As long as you’re not a dick you wont get punched in the face or cause any trouble.
Keep in mind that you have to escalate with a woman even in front of the guy. You got to take action.
Pre Game Notes.
When you walk up in a club. Talk to the guys and befriend them. One way you can do this is by going up to them and start with rapport seeking conversation, its easy to talk this way with guys. Immediately when you see women you want to approach, tell the guys “hey i’m going to talk these ladies i’ll catch you later.” and when they see you approach them they will want to be your friend.
Making friends with guys early on helps because when you see them later with a couple of ladies, you can go up to them and say “hey what’s up guys, hows it’s going, whose you’re friends?” You already befriended the guys so everybody is cool with each other.
Do warm up sets to get you in a social state.
Approaching Mixed Sets
Calibrate and Assess the group. Whose boyfriend and girlfriend. Whose just friends. Is the guy a Pussy or a Player. Look at his body language how it communicates.
Most of the time women go out with other girls and men go out with other guys. if you see a mixed set, it’s more likely that they just met so the connection isn’t a deep one.
There are different ways to approach if the guy in the group is a pussy or player but first assess which one he is.
Pussy - staying to long in the set, not really doing anything. Weak body language.
Player - back against the wall surrounded by women, Positive Body Language, smiling and laughing with the girls and having a good time.
If the guy is a pussy, approach the women directly and ignore him. he will later leave or wander off, because he doesn’t know what he’s doing. He’ll go back to the corner in his cage.
if he’s a player approach the guy first. Approach from an angle so when he turns his attention towards you, he will reposition his body away from the women in the group. Flatter his ego, for example “hey werent you captain of the football team at x-high school.” start conversation and make him feel good. Then have him introduce you the group and take his girl if she’s the one you want. You’re having him bring you in the group.
if it turns out that you approached the set like he is pussy but is actually a player, say “oh hey what’s up man, how are you doing.” and start talking to him like you would do a player.
Here’s an advance way. You see a guy with a group of girls that you want to approach. Open a somewhat attractive set near him. tell the girls “hey, see my friend over there, he thinks you guys are cute. is it cool if he comes over and says ‘hi’” if they say “yes” you go up to him and say “hey bro, see those girls over there they told me they think you’re cute and want to talk to you.” Bring him over there, or have him go there. Now you can take his group. Go up to the girl you want and you can say “hey you’re boyfriend wanted me to take care of you while he’s gone.” and if she says “oh he’s not my boyfriend.” then you know where she stands with him.
One thing that works is “how do you guys know each other?” asking this questions helps you know where everybody stands… it’s most likely that you will ask this question.
You can pick up a girl in front of a guy while he is oblivious to it.
Talk emotional to the girl and talk logical to the guy.
Women talk with more emotions. They talk about how things make them feel or why they did something. Men talk more logical. They ask “where are you from?” or “what kind of job do you have.” They talk factual.
To get a woman talking emotional, say she talks about Chicago. You can ask “how do you feel about Chicago?” or “why do you like Chicago.”
So you’re talking the guy in a logical way. Asking “where’s he from” or “what he does for a living.” or “what part of town does he live in.” This makes him more comfortable with you
meanwhile…
you’re talking the girl in an emotional way, asking her what she likes about Chicago and how does she feel about Chicago and it makes her attracted to you.
so you’re getting the guy to be comfortable with you while she’s being attracted to you. This is oblivious to him.
About Frames.
You want to set the “US Frame.”
you and her are together. You’re setting a frame that you and her have a connection.
for example if a guy for some reason keeps talking to you and her and he wont shut up for a second you can say “wow, this guy really knows how to entertain us.”
start talking with terms like
“us”
“together”
“lets”
“we”
“you and me.”
it gives you and her a frame that the two of you are together. you both are paired up
most guys like to bust a womans balls and it’s like they’re always “fighting” and it provides some tension but it’s more better to be on the same team.
you and her can also create and “us frame” with the other people in the set.
for example there’s two other people in the group, you can say “hey you guys are so alike, you guys could be a couple.” and your girl could go “yeah, you guys seem to really click.”
by you and her setting an “us frame” on other people it actually strengthens the us frame you and her have.
if the guys in the set are fucking with you be unaffected by them and she will be more attracted to you.
Mini Isolate and Isolating
use the US frame to escalate. What you do is mini-isolate her so that her attention is on you but she’s still in the group somehow. When you mini isolate her it’s a lot easier to move up the Dicarlo Escalation Ladder.
A way to mini isolate is when you and her are talking keep and hold eye contact while moving the perimeter of the group so she moves her attention towards you and her side is facing the group. Her attention is on you but she still in the group.
When you want to isolate her from the group, lean back in and say “hey, i’m going to borrow her for 2 mins.”
Heartwork talked about something new that he’s working on which is Being a Buying Temperature Bandit. He posts it in this forum and the public forum. you can check it out there. its about taking all the built up sexual energy that she had built up with another guy and stealing it and her from him.
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Comments
cool, yeah i love taking the notes even if there is an mp3 download which i just found out a couple of hours ago , i still would take notes because it adds another layer of understanding.
yo man, thanks for the call bro, thats Artistic and leadership skills right there to be able to move sets.
This is awesome stuff! I keep hearing amazing things about Mastermind, thinking of joining next month.