Practical State Application & State Transfer Openers
I am known for having a fun and high energy and when people see me in set they always ask me “How do I get in state?” I always found it an odd question because I am always going out to have fun. But I realized that for some, going out to a club or anywhere with the intention of meeting a girl can be overwhelming. So I am writing this to help people get used to the concept of getting in state, knowing what it feels like, noticing the difference it makes, and how to captivate others by it.
I have never been someone that has gravitated towards “mental self help books” such as The Power of Now or whatever new book seems to be getting guys out of their head. So frankly all the advice I have on “how to get in state” is purely based on my real life experiences.
There are many people out there that want to dispel the concept of a “state” in pick up but let me tell you it is very real and can make the biggest difference in your night.
So I would like to start out by defining state the best way I can, in my own opinion (You may have a different one). “A perfect state is when your inner and your outer actions are equal to or slightly higher than the energy of your environment.”
What this means is that you can be in sate in any environment, however the perfect “state” during day game may be different from your “state” during night game.
During day game, the environment is more relaxed and less demanding of high energy actions. However during the day, many people are repeating actions they do all the time so they have internalized a repetitive social day state.
Girls go to shopping malls and places like Starbucks all the time with close friends so just by entering the environment, they are in a strong social state.
This is what makes approaching girls during the day so easy.
Now I’m sure some of you are saying…”Talking to girls during the day is hard!”
This is most likely because you have never been “in state” during the day
If you have had trouble during opening girls during the day, your state is not aligned with your surroundings.
For day game, you need to accustom yourself with a fun and social state. In fact, to truly stand out in a day game environment, your state should be just slightly higher than the energy of the environment. (But my no means hyper. What it really comes down to is having a GENUINE interest in the person you are approaching. You want to WANT to talk to them.)
Day game is a test of how normal you can be. If talking to a girl during the day is normal for you, your state will allow it to be normal for her as well. If you come in with just a bit more expressiveness, it rises her routine “day state” to a level that is easier to engage.
Like I said, for state to be achieved, your inner and outer actions must be aligned with the environment.
True state cannot be achieved without either so let’s first focus on “inner actions” during the day.
During the day you have to realize that it is okay to talk to girls. Although people are out to do specific tasks, taking a minute of their time is a socially acceptable thing to do.
Why do you think girls spend hours fixing themselves up in front of the mirror, even if they are just going out to grab a coffee… if your are in state (aka, you genuinely believe it is okay to talk to people during the day), these sets will open every time!
When state is achieved, you are out of your head and your inner thoughts are aligned and are not conflicting with your outer actions (zero hesitation), which I am going to cover now.
When you are in state, your outer actions are extremely expressive. Your personality is explosive and people are captivated by every word you have to say. And likewise you have an extreme interest in what the person you are talking to is saying.
This captivation is because in your head, you are not worrying about what you say, and your actions are showing people that you are 100% confident in every move you make.
This also applies to night game but your actions can be louder and more physical. However you want your outer and inner actions to “match” the environment, instead of exceed it.
At night (in clubs) you can do CRAZY things and not exceed the energy of the environment, but there is a fine line between seeming like the most captivating guy in the club, and seeming like the guy that does the most “E” in the club.
I could continue to talk about the feelings of state, how the moons must be aligned, and all the other mumbo jumbo for one to understand state, but I believe the best way to understand state is to put you in it.
You don’t need to know why state or how works. IT JUST DOES. All you need to know it is a response in your body GUARANTEED to make pick-up easier! And I do not believe in the concept of always being in a social pick up state, and if you do I think you are lying to yourself or trying to achieve something impossible. Achieving that would make you a weird person that can not adapt to various social situation and you would be completely impossible to relate to. (Like people that get waaaay to into inner game and think they are at an enlightened level above other people. They end up hurting their game because they think showing any sign of a “normal human” is weakness.
There are plenty of times I am not “in state” due to various factors (stress, illness, other things going on in my life) and its all those things that make me who I am. However, when you go out, I don’t expect people to get to the club automatically IN STATE. it must be built. You can’t just walk into a place and instantly be having the best time in the world.
The easiest way to quickly achieve state and know what it feels like is to push yourself far out of your social comfort zone.
When you are pushed out of your comfort zone your state momentarily sky rockets as your heart rate rises. Then as you begin to relax, your state begins to balance out with the environment that you are in. (Heart rate slows down while state remains high)
Below I am going to list ways to pump up your state. These are recommended to be done on the way to your destination.
10 Ways to achieve state: (You do not need to do these every time you go out. After practicing and becoming accustom to the true feelings of “state” the mere act of going out will be a form of a trigger for being in state. Due these as a quick way to get in state so you can start seeing the difference it makes in your game)
These are just a few of the fun things my friends and I will do to quickly get pumped into state. Feel free to share your own
1) Before going out, go to a local bar that is free to enter. Compliment every single person in that bar. Literally jump from one person to the other as you say something flattering and funny about the next person you encounter. There should be no hesitation on your part from one person to the next, keep moving!
2) Go to the street outside of the place you are entering. Yell “Woohoo!” in front of random people and put your hand up and do not stop till you get at least 10 high fives.
3) Do 5 suicide sprints in a local area. Find a place that is about 15 to 20 yards long and sprint it 5 times in a row. Do not worry if other people are in the area or watching
4) Go into a restaurant or social area that is not too loud. Start a slow clap, as people look at you, make eye contact and nod like they should be doing it too.
5) Tell 7 strangers a super interesting and secret thing about you. The more personal the better. Just say that it is something that you had to get off your chest. If they ask why you are telling them, just smile and say “Why wouldn’t I?”
6) While walking to your destination, sing a song everyone knows the words to. See if you can get people to join in. “Kiss from a Rose” by Seal is always a crowd pleaser.
7) Go up to five people. Hold your ground in front of them and go “Lollypop, Lollypop, Oh Lolly Lollypop. Lollypop, Lollypop, Oh Lolly Lollypop….(See if you can get them to finish the verse by holding an invisible microphone in front of them and getting them to say Lollypop”
8) Say hello to 25 people. Just walk down a busy sidewalk and give a friendly hello to each person. As your state gets higher, you will notice people turning to continue the conversation with you.
9) Approach sets that you would normally dub “impossible”. Ex. If a girl is 50 yards away. Yell to get her attention and see how long you can hold a conversation with her from that distance. Once again, as your state gets higher, no set is impossible to open. With this approach you are “assuming state” until you achieve it.
10) Gather about 15 Snapple fun facts. Try to memorize them or bring them with you and engage at least 6 people. See how many Snapple fun facts you can get away with reciting before they walk away.
I could make a list that goes on forever but I think you are starting to see the point. Push yourself out of your social comfort zone and start realizing how to have fun! Do not get logical on yourself. If you do even just 2 or 3 of these before you enter a club, while in a club, or just out during the day. You will have put yourself in a powerful social state, you will be laughing and having fun. Most importantly, you will not care what others think and the concept of “rejection” becomes non existent.
When you are in state, there is nothing you can’t pull off and opening (often people’s biggest sticking point) becomes the easiest thing to do.
The best way to use your state to your advantage is by using what I call “State Transfer Openers”
Basically the concept behind them is that you come in with all your energy and throw your state upon the girl. This instantly brings her to your level and opening more fun and successful. Only do once you have achieved state, if you are forcing them, they will not work.
This is also a great way to open high energy girls that already seem to be having a great time and are “in-state”
Here are three fantastic “State Transfer Openers”:
1) As a girl is about to walk by, literally leap from where you are to directly in front of the girl. Expand your arms almost like you are going to take her in for a big hug. Radiate a massive smile and let out a loud “Hello!” (When her equally fun explosive reaction occurs, you can introduce yourself and go right for a fun hug).
2) Go up to group of girls. Once they see you walking in, do a quick three 360 spin and go “Ta-Da!” Smile and wait for the wave of high fives that are soon to follow.
3) Dive (Yes, really dive, with a running start and everything) into a booth that contains a set and with a big smile yell “Whats up!” (Credit Sinn). After doing this you will even notice your state skyrocket even higher and usually the groups will match.
The social conditioning of your life has most likely kept you from achieving a fun social state. Society’s rules and so called “socially accepted behaviors” keep people from running free without a concern for what others think.
Fuck the rules, fuck society standards, and fuck the thoughts that hold you back. Launch your state and fuck the girl!
Love,
Heartwork
I am going to attempt to do this thing where I post a picture of myself in field demonstrating the the concept I am writing about. This is my
“In State Picture”
Under 21 Convention Preview
For those that have not seen it, I would like to show the preview for the Under 21 Convention that I spoke at this summer.
First ever College Game Bootcamp
Vin sent out this email the other day. Going to repost it here incase you missed it:
From Vin:
If you’ll remember…
I recently mentioned that we were
putting the finishing touches on our
brand new College Game Bootcamp.
It is the first time that world-class
pick-up has been adapted to college
game, and I’m VERY excited about this.
If you’ve tried picking up girls at
college, then you already know this, but
it’s WORLDS different than normal
pick-up.
There are just too many new dynamics at
play…
This bootcamp will be extremely limited,
and will probably sell out on the same
evening it is released.
Here’s why:
1. No Competition.
This is the ONLY world class pick-up
system on the topic of college game, and
the market is STAGGERING.
2. VERY Affordable.
I’ve seen certain Drills Bootcamp dates
sell out in days, even though I run them
year-round, and it’s significantly more
expensive. It only makes sense that
this bootcamp will sell out even sooner.
3. Limited Seating.
So far we are only scheduling TWO of
these bootcamps, each one being capped
at 6 students. Each bootcamp will be
led by Heartwork, (even though Brian and
I will be acting as co-instructors!) The
amount of personal attention you’re
going to get is going to be
second-to-none.
4. College Babes!
Need I say more? The only thing we are
require is that you are between the ages
of 18-30. This is because we are trying
to maintain a low-key vibe during the
fieldwork. (Oh, and leave your feather
boas, furry hats and black nail polish
at home if you’re gonna join us on this
one)
To celebrate this INDUSTRY FIRST, we are
holding a one-time Tele-Coaching
Session, where we will discuss the
fundamentals of College Game, give away
a few SECRETS, as well as tell you how
to sign up.
The call will be held Thursday Evening
August 28th, at 10:30 PM EST. (That’s
7:30 PM for all the West Coast guys)
To register for this call, simply use
this link:
https://vindicarlo.infusionsoft.com/in/i927c0/heartwork!vindicarlo.com/6acfc0/
If you are interested at all in this
bootcamp, YOU NEED to be on
the call to get sign up details.
My trainer, Heartwork has dedicated the
last few years of his life MASTERING
Game on College Campuses.
And what he has come up with is
astonishing.
If I had to pick ONE GUY to learn
College Game from, it would be him.
He is easily the BEST pick-up artist
under the age of 21 and unstoppable when
it comes to meeting girls on a college
campus.
I know a lot of my readers are under 21 so this is definatly something I suggest checking out. The amount of work that has been put into the program is rediculous.
Mixed Set Mastery
I did a teleconfrence the other day in relation to picking up girls from mixed sets. I feel it was an amazing call but unfortunatly it is only for mastermind members and I can’t upload it here. If you are on Mastermind and were on the call, here are some extreamly well taken notes.
Special thanks to Lester on putting these notes together! Make sure you thank him!
I noted in my own words but this is straight up Heartwork’s material.
Beliefs about Mixed Sets
People see mixed sets and they think it’s hard or it’s intimidating. Actually it’s not. You can approach the guys and they are much easier to approach than women. Plus you can befriend the guy and he can help hook you up with a girl in the group. Approach with a good vibe and think that everyone is your friend. As long as you’re not a dick you wont get punched in the face or cause any trouble.
Keep in mind that you have to escalate with a woman even in front of the guy. You got to take action.
Pre Game Notes.
When you walk up in a club. Talk to the guys and befriend them. One way you can do this is by going up to them and start with rapport seeking conversation, its easy to talk this way with guys. Immediately when you see women you want to approach, tell the guys “hey i’m going to talk these ladies i’ll catch you later.” and when they see you approach them they will want to be your friend.
Making friends with guys early on helps because when you see them later with a couple of ladies, you can go up to them and say “hey what’s up guys, hows it’s going, whose you’re friends?” You already befriended the guys so everybody is cool with each other.
Do warm up sets to get you in a social state.
Approaching Mixed Sets
Calibrate and Assess the group. Whose boyfriend and girlfriend. Whose just friends. Is the guy a Pussy or a Player. Look at his body language how it communicates.
Most of the time women go out with other girls and men go out with other guys. if you see a mixed set, it’s more likely that they just met so the connection isn’t a deep one.
There are different ways to approach if the guy in the group is a pussy or player but first assess which one he is.
Pussy - staying to long in the set, not really doing anything. Weak body language.
Player - back against the wall surrounded by women, Positive Body Language, smiling and laughing with the girls and having a good time.
If the guy is a pussy, approach the women directly and ignore him. he will later leave or wander off, because he doesn’t know what he’s doing. He’ll go back to the corner in his cage.
if he’s a player approach the guy first. Approach from an angle so when he turns his attention towards you, he will reposition his body away from the women in the group. Flatter his ego, for example “hey werent you captain of the football team at x-high school.” start conversation and make him feel good. Then have him introduce you the group and take his girl if she’s the one you want. You’re having him bring you in the group.
if it turns out that you approached the set like he is pussy but is actually a player, say “oh hey what’s up man, how are you doing.” and start talking to him like you would do a player.
Here’s an advance way. You see a guy with a group of girls that you want to approach. Open a somewhat attractive set near him. tell the girls “hey, see my friend over there, he thinks you guys are cute. is it cool if he comes over and says ‘hi’” if they say “yes” you go up to him and say “hey bro, see those girls over there they told me they think you’re cute and want to talk to you.” Bring him over there, or have him go there. Now you can take his group. Go up to the girl you want and you can say “hey you’re boyfriend wanted me to take care of you while he’s gone.” and if she says “oh he’s not my boyfriend.” then you know where she stands with him.
One thing that works is “how do you guys know each other?” asking this questions helps you know where everybody stands… it’s most likely that you will ask this question.
You can pick up a girl in front of a guy while he is oblivious to it.
Talk emotional to the girl and talk logical to the guy.
Women talk with more emotions. They talk about how things make them feel or why they did something. Men talk more logical. They ask “where are you from?” or “what kind of job do you have.” They talk factual.
To get a woman talking emotional, say she talks about Chicago. You can ask “how do you feel about Chicago?” or “why do you like Chicago.”
So you’re talking the guy in a logical way. Asking “where’s he from” or “what he does for a living.” or “what part of town does he live in.” This makes him more comfortable with you
meanwhile…
you’re talking the girl in an emotional way, asking her what she likes about Chicago and how does she feel about Chicago and it makes her attracted to you.
so you’re getting the guy to be comfortable with you while she’s being attracted to you. This is oblivious to him.
About Frames.
You want to set the “US Frame.”
you and her are together. You’re setting a frame that you and her have a connection.
for example if a guy for some reason keeps talking to you and her and he wont shut up for a second you can say “wow, this guy really knows how to entertain us.”
start talking with terms like
“us”
“together”
“lets”
“we”
“you and me.”
it gives you and her a frame that the two of you are together. you both are paired up
most guys like to bust a womans balls and it’s like they’re always “fighting” and it provides some tension but it’s more better to be on the same team.
you and her can also create and “us frame” with the other people in the set.
for example there’s two other people in the group, you can say “hey you guys are so alike, you guys could be a couple.” and your girl could go “yeah, you guys seem to really click.”
by you and her setting an “us frame” on other people it actually strengthens the us frame you and her have.
if the guys in the set are fucking with you be unaffected by them and she will be more attracted to you.
Mini Isolate and Isolating
use the US frame to escalate. What you do is mini-isolate her so that her attention is on you but she’s still in the group somehow. When you mini isolate her it’s a lot easier to move up the Dicarlo Escalation Ladder.
A way to mini isolate is when you and her are talking keep and hold eye contact while moving the perimeter of the group so she moves her attention towards you and her side is facing the group. Her attention is on you but she still in the group.
When you want to isolate her from the group, lean back in and say “hey, i’m going to borrow her for 2 mins.”
Heartwork talked about something new that he’s working on which is Being a Buying Temperature Bandit. He posts it in this forum and the public forum. you can check it out there. its about taking all the built up sexual energy that she had built up with another guy and stealing it and her from him.
Being a Buying Tempature Bandit (Advanced Dance Floor Game)
Being a Buying Temperature Bandit
(Advanced Dance Floor Game)
Note: This concept is not for beginners. It requires confidence, dominance, and a firm set of balls.
The three most common things I achieve from this technique are:
1) Super-Fast Make-outs
2) Immediate Isolations (And pulls)
3) Directly stealing girls from guys on the dance floor.
How often do you find yourself at a club, and the hottest girls are always grinding up against some big guy?
It seems like these girls are impossible to approach let alone get time to talk to them.
Truth is… it could not be easier.
And here is how:
First thing you need to understand is what goes on while a girl is grinding with another guy.
As a girl grinds with a guy, her sexual state is skyrocketing and she is experiencing emotions that are very similar to sex. This is exhilarating for the girl and is the reason sometimes if you just walk by a girl on the dance floor, you become subject to her grinding up against you.
This sexual state, combined with all the external stimuli and emotions make up what I consider to be “Buying Temperature” in a women.
As she is grinding with some random guy (or girl) her buying temperature is sky-rocketing but it is simply being attributed to the environment. It is not being linked to the person she is grinding with, it is just one big mess of good emotions floating in the girl.
This is good news for you!
The buying temperature that she is building can be stolen and directly applied to you.
However, there is a particular mindset that needs to be in place before you start doing this.
I call it “The Bandit’s Mindset”
To be a Buying Temperature Bandit you need to be a master of your element. A “BT Bandit” has a particularly powerful and direct thought process.
It goes as follows:
1) The girl you see is the girl you get.
When you see a girl you want there is no thinking. There is no waiting. You have to approach that girl. But you are not going for the approach. You are going for the kill. That is the girl you are taking home. No excuses.
2) Every set is a single set.
You and her are the only people that exist in the interaction. To be a true bandit you know no obstacles. It does not matter how badass the guy she is grinding with is. He is simply an object that is pumping her buying temp to deliver it to you. She has no emotional attachment to the guy she is grinding with, why the fuck should you. He is non existent. Do not make eye contact, do not acknowledge his existence.
3) There is only one frame.
And it is the “Us-Frame”. You and the girl are immediately working as a team the second you talk to her. No time to be combative. She wants you to steal her away and she is going to help you do it. If your vocabulary does not include the words “Us, we, lets, and together” when talking to girls…make the shift immediately.
4) Everything is a window of opportunity.
No time to wait for a chance to escalate. You must create your own windows. If she is in the same building as you, she might as well be there to meet you. A bandit never lets a passing smile or even eye contact from a girl go without an approach.
5) Create your own compliance
Everything she does is helping the interaction. Everything she does frames the interaction in your favor. A bandit rewards her actions with touch and attention to make the favorable action happen again and again.
These are more than “hokey inner game” mindsets. I will show you how each of these come into play when carrying out the actions of a BT Bandit.
But first let me walk you through the actions of a Buying Temperature Bandit.
This is what you actually do to steal the girl.
- Walk right up to girl
- Full eye contact, bandit mindsets in place, strong high energy state
- Grab on shoulder or wrap arm around her waist.
- Pull her in towards you so she breaks contact with the person she is grinding with. (The buying temperature is now applied to you) Everyone else in the set is non-existent.
- Us Frame with compliance
- This is when you open. I immediately make frame it like she is the one picking me up.
i. Ex. “I hope you are happy, you made me come all the way over here! Now we can talk” (Compliance + Us Frame)
- Re-spike her buying temperature if necessary
- Buying temperature makes girls putty in your hands. It easier to spike when it is already high. This is when you can spin her, high five her, and keep the heavy kino going. Escalation should be high.
- Pick your close
- If you have kept her buying temperature high you can go for the instant make-out. I will often “Us Frame” a little more by saying how awesome we are. This creates an even deeper reality that only exists between us and makes her forget about any surrounding people. If I know I can get the make-out for sure I will just pull her to an isolation spot. Continue escalating, make sure she does not break her sexual state, and set up logistics of an in-venue lay.
This whole technique also works if you see a guy gaming a girl and she is really into him. If you open with the bandit mindset in place, everyone else will be stuck in spectator mode. Even the guy with game will sit on the sideline as he watches all the work he just did become applied to you
Now time to put it all together:
Here is a recent rundown of me stealing the buying temperature of a girl, and taking the girl away from the guy and off the dance floor and going for the pull.
Heartwork: I spot girl I want. She is grinding with a guy. She is looking around the dance floor, I can tell this is just a random dance encounter and she is mine for the taking. She looks in my direction, I don’t even know if she looked at me, but now she sees me coming. (Mindset 1, 4, and 5). I walk up to her, keeping strong eye contact with her and get right in her space.
Heartwork: I grab her by the back of the waist and pull her into my wait. All her buying temp is thrown on me. She puts her arm around my back. I say “You are super cute! But together, we are even cuter. (Mindset 2 and 3).
Girl: giggling Yeah! We are pretty awesome! She is already sucked into the Us Frame.
Heartwork: You know it! High five to spike her buying temp, I don’t let go of her hand. I pull her hips closer into mine and get her facing me. This rewards her for being in my frame and picturing us together (Mindset 4 and 5). I got for the instant make-out, she jumps right in, all her buying temp is stolen and attributed to me. I then decide to pull her off the dance floor by saying “This song is awesome! Woo! (Spike more BT) Let’s go over here!” I pull her off the dance floor.
The line “This song is awesome! Woo! Let’s go over here” works because it is a logical cluster fuck.
If she likes the song and wants to dance to it and also realizes that I like it. She is not going to go into the “I still want to dance” objection mode.
Also just by yelling “Woo!” (Or some other nonsensical thing to show excitement) it takes the two of you out of a logical frame (Does not matter who does the “woo”, you are sharing the same frame). This makes her subjective to you moving her for whatever reason.
Pull her to a booth, get her on your lap, and continue escalation.
I will leave the logistics in your hands.
Be the best bandit that you can be.
Love,
Heartwork
Which Olympiad would you fuck?
I have been watching the Summer Olympics on and off.
There are two spectrum of the women: Super hott or Super Manly.
I am opening the floor to my readers: Who is the hottest.
Can be from any country. (Just don’t pick the chinese gymnists, they are like 4 years old)
My vote goes to Alicia Sacramone (US Gymnist) because I found this video of her punching a guy out.
The Julian Foxx Video
Julian Foxx is a good friend of mine and has his own pick-up company however this video is getting huge mixed reactions in the community. I wanted to see what you guys think of it.
Here are my personal thoughts: I know for fact Julian is an incredible pick up artist. And despite what people are saying this video is not fake.
This video is supposed to be funny, you can hate Julian all you want for it but I find the video amusing and entertaining.
I also find it dissapointing that Matador is going around doing the same magic tricks as Mystery. Sure Mystery can do them because that is part of his identity but I have a feeling Matador has some huge identity issues. And that is comming from evidence presented to me from outside the video.
Anyway I will leave it up to you guys to comment.
Under 21 Convention Journal: “The Asian Sensation”
“The Asian Sensation”
Friday July 25th, 2008.
Each day I wake up more and more tired.
I walk into the seminar room and quietly sit in the back doing some work on my laptop.
Someone comes in and stands next to me with a big Kinko’s box.
I did not recognize him.
Turns out it is Sinn, I had never met him before but I knew what he looked it. The he has a shaved head now, it threw me off.
I hit it off with him while AFC Adam and his girlfriend Amanda come in shortly after.
They were all super fun to talk to and all around great people.
My good buddy Manwhore shows up too and it was great to finally chill with him.
For most of the day we sit in the back of the room sharing funny community related stories with other awesome guys I have met at the convention (Like Psych).
I could talk forever about all the hilarious community secrets that were brought up however I am just going to go on and talk about the night because it was equally entertaining.
I also must mention this was Doc Holiday’s birthday. So the night consisted of getting him really drunk, and everyone fucking around with Australian accents. (You can find vids of it on YouTube)
Everyone is having a great time and pretty much hit up the same place.
I make friends with a kid who goes by HomeRun-King and is an all around great guy and I know one day he will be an amazing pick up artist.
Me and him go to the second level of the bar and see two attractive girls sitting at the balcony.
We open them and slowly work our way into the group and lock in on the balcony.
We go “people watching” with the girls and make a game out of pointing out all the funny things about the people dancing below us.
The most attractive girl tells me she is a lesbian.
I have heard this before and I assumed she was kidding. I tell her “Yeah I am a lesbian too, don’t worry, I love chicks, we will get along great”
I mini isolate her from her group and really turn up the kino. She seems very receptive but after talking to her more I find out that she REALLY is a lesbian.
She starts to tell me about her 11 month relationship that she just got out of with another girl.
I refuse to stop gaming her though and I continue to turn up the kino and go overly sexual. I figure I should go for broke.
I joke about making her my plutonic lesbian friend that helps me pick out clothes.
I step it up by saying since she is a lesbian, I could practice kissing with her and it would be no big deal.
I catch her look at my lips as she humors the idea.
She tells me “You know, I have not ALWAYS been lesbian”
I do some dirty compliance here, I say: “Oh don’t worry babe, you don’t have to turn straight for me”
She laughs and starts to touch me a lot now.
It has been about 15 mins now so I need to know if this is going anywhere.
I look at her and go “Be honest, on a scale of one to ten, what are our chances of hooking up.”
She says 6.
I say “I like my odds” and I go for a make out.
She reciprocates quickly but I can tell she is taken back.
Her friend teases her about it and I continue to have small conversation with them. They were about to leave the club but my night has just begun.
I see Homerun-King waiting around and there are no more sets on this floor so I grab her number and catch up with Homerun-King.
We leave the venue and find a really cool country bar that is like 4 stories tall.
Just for fun I see if I can talk to every single person in the place. I lost Homerun-King for a while as I was out of control running around striking up conversations with anyone I passed. A couple other attendees of the convention got into it too.
The venue had a fun energy but was not packed and besides from a couple busy bartenders, there were no good sets.
We head back to the place we originally were.
I am in a super fun and high energy state.
I catch up with Sinn and see a progressively drunker Doc Holiday following behind. (It’s his 21st birthday, I would expect nothing less.)
We all re-enter the bar. I talk to a couple other guys from the convention.
One tells me that he opened a group of Asians but they did not speak English.
Usually I do not go for Asians but a couple of them were very cute so I figured what the hell.
I go running over and do one of my “state-transfer openers”
It is pretty much just introducing yourself in such a high energy that she can’t help but get captivated in your state.
I get the hottest one to hit buying temp immediately and I pick her up and spin her around.
I pretend I can’t hear anything she is saying so I pull her into a booth. She speaks English fine.
I see Sinn in a booth across from me with his girl. This is the last I saw of him that night but we happened to both experienced an unfortunate “E.R” (Emergency Report: When shit goes wrong at the worst time)
My girl is Japanese. And I know that Japanese girls can be very resistant. I was shocked when I was able to get her to kiss me.
I start setting up logistics for the pull but she tells me she is driving all her friends home.
These logistics suck and I am about to just set up a day 2 in the morning.
Psych comes up to me and I tell him the situation. Turns out he has a place only like 10 mins away (Well more like 35, but we told the girls it was 10)
I was pretty beat and ready to call it a night but he re-inspires me to go for the pull with a little bit of advice that I had told him earlier in the day when we were talking about “Flaking”.
“The best way to prevent flaking is to fuck the girl the day you meet her.”
We get all the girls together and tell them we are going to Psych’s place to play beer pong.
Some of the girls are resistant, but I have learned to accept that with Japanese girls.
I put my hand out and say “HANDS IN!”
I take my girls hand and put hers on top of mine. The other girls join in and Psych caps it off.
We go ONE TWO THREE BREAK! And all walk out of the club.
This is when shit got out of control…
Ratisse and Valentino meet up with us. Psych and I let them come because there are 4 girls, that way we have an even ratio.
Problem is we get to the girls car, and it is a 5 passenger vehicle.
There are 8 of us.
We make all the girls pile in the back of their own car with Ratisse and Valentino.
Psych takes shotgun and for some crazy reason… I am driving.
Now…I have never driven in Orlando and the streets are crazy.
We are driving around trying to find the parking garage that Ratisse has his car in.
We get lost and I am flying down one way streets….in the wrong direction.
Everyone is screaming
And for some god awful reason, no one can figure out how to turn the headlights on.
It is a disaster and I know logistics are going to be harder and harder as time goes on.
Total search time comes to over half an hour.
We find the garage. And the girls just want to go home. We are not going to fight it anymore but I know my girl still wanted to come.
We end up parting ways, she promises to call me in the morning, she apologizes that her friends want to leave.
Once again….
Fucking ERs
(But it’s not big deal ; ))
Heartwork’s Anti-Relationship (But still keep the girl) Script
People that know me know that one of the last things I currently want in my life is a serious relationships.
Also being a younger guy I’ve dated a large age group of girls and all the girls my age are always dying to get in a relationship.
Maybe this just happens to me a lot, but I can think of numerous occasions when me and a girl will be having a fantastic time, but all of a sudden, things seem to halt because she wants to know “where this is going?” or “if we are actually boyfriend and girlfriend”
Truth is, I love girls and don’t want to loose one from my life because of forced relationship non-sense, so I have developed a script I say EVERY single time to keep the girl around, but stay out of relationships.
Here it is:
“Listen _(Girls Name)_, I love the time we spend together, we always have a great time. However you need to know that I am not the kind of person that jumps into a relationship. I feel like too many people do that and they end up ruining everything and that is the last thing I want to happen with us. The main reason I feel this way is because when I commit to a relationship, I go all in and I don’t half ass it. So until I feel that I can give the full commitment and give us what our relationship deserves, I just want to continue to have a great time together. Okay? (Small kiss on the lips, pull back, make eye contact, and smile)”
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This shit fuckin works, I have given it to tons of my friends and we all remain happy singles with a huge social circle of girls that want to fuck us.
What is special about it, it makes it seem like by not being in a relationship, you are actually making the relationship between the two of you stronger!
Everyone wins.
Especially you ;)
Good luck!
Love,
Heartwork
Under 21 Convention Journal: “The Gatekeeper”
“The Gatekeeper”
Thursday July 24th, 2008.
If I had to give this night a motto it would be “I don’t give a fuck.”
Zebra and I both presented today at the convention so we ended up sticking together for most of the day.
When it came time to go out, we decided we were going to tear this city a new one!
You see, it is always important to remember that when you are going out, you are going out to have a good time, and you are not going out to “pick up chicks.”
But if harassing every girl that walks your way in overly creative ways to pick them up is your idea of a good time…then you can come chill with me and Zebra : )
We start by entering a cool club in downtown Orlando. It is pretty packed and was actually very “ghetto” for my taste.
But personally I would rather be in a room filled with ghetto black guys than a room full of white guys that want to be ghetto black guys (Cough cough Worcester, Massachusetts)
Anyways Zebra and I come storming in. We see convention attendees everywhere and a ton are already in set which is great to see.
Zebra and I run up to a 5 set (4 girls, 1 guy).
I immediately assess the group and I can tell who the guy is with through body language and shit.
I take this into account and rely on the fact that he should keep his girl entertained. I introduce myself to him just to be safe.
Zebra and I work on the two hottest girls in the set. We immediately start flawlessly winging off each other.
We were lifting some of the girls off the ground and spinning them around.
(After that I noticed a way to pick up the other hot girl in the set. I accused her of being jealous that we did not pick her up off the ground and whispered in her ear “I promise…later tonight…when you least expect it…I will come up…and pick you right up off the ground”)
I can tell I have her turned on and the other girl is super into me also. Zebra ejected and started to talk to another group of girls. I figured I would go over and help him out but I wanted to “leave my seed” with this group.
As a joke, I was wearing my “Under 21 Convention I.D. badge” out at the clubs tonight (It was a hilarious conversation piece)
I took it off and put it on the girl that I had previously lifted off the ground.
I leave the set and they run off to the dance floor.
Zebra and I head up onto an elevated level of the club and continue to fuck around with ridiculous nonsensical openers.
We start talking to this one girl and immediately we are getting the psychopath vibe from her.
She tells me a riddle that goes:
A woman goes to her mother’s funeral. At that funeral she sees the man of her dreams. The next day she kills her sister. Why?
I was not able to guess the answer.
The answer is “So she would see the guy at her sister’s funeral”
I guess if you get the answer right the first time you hear the riddle, you are a psycho and have serial killer tendencies.
This girl then went on to explain how she got it right on the first time.
Shortly after she actually assaults Zebra for saying some silly nonsensical thing that she took the wrong way.
He gets the fuck out of there fast and now I am pinned up against this low rise balcony thing that is above the dance floor.
She is escalating on me and I know if I reject her, she may kill me (Literally).
I am freaking out.
As I back up against the rail, my elbow hits a glass beer bottle. The bottle goes falling off the rail and shatters on the dance floor below.
I look at the girl and go “HOLY SHIT, I GOTTA GET OUT OF HERE”
I run away to a distant part of the club : )
As I am avoiding “HB Crazy Biatch” and any security that may be wanting to yell at me, I see the girl that has my Under 21 Convention name badge on, dancing on the dance floor with some guy.
I come walking through the dance floor all smooth like and we make eye contact.
I give her my sexy stare and she smiles back.
I grab both her arms and pull her right off the guy she is dancing with like you would pull a band-aid off a cut: really quick and fluid.
I spin her around and we are grinding. I consider myself a good grinder and she was great also. Which I really like.
She was very good, I have my hands all over her thighs, waist and I have my thumbs wrapped under her g-string that started to rise from her pants line.
I start to get a raging boner and when that happens I never know what to fuckin do with it. I always try to tuck it my waist line so the girl does not feel it as much while we are dancing.
But like I said this is a “I don’t give a fuck night”
So instead of tucking it away or changing my stance I decided to get the life long question answered: “Is it okay for the girl to feel your boner while dancing?”
I become one with my boner and literally start jabbing her with it while we dance. I make sure she knows exactly what it is.
I feel like I am having a sword fight with a pillow as I slash my cock around her backside in a “Zorro” like manner.
I want to see how much I can get away with so I turn her around and start to grind with her on the front side.
She starts to kiss my neck and grind up really hard against my ever so present cock that is only being contained by some Boston Red Sox boxers and a pair of Levies.
I notice her hand dropping down to my waist line and she starts to “push” my waist off hers.
I think “Finally I crossed the line, about time!”
So I pull back a little….seconds later, she pulls me by thee waist band back into her. (really hard)
This actually really hurt my cock.
I soon realized she was not trying to push my cock away, but instead she was trying to rub it with her hand.
Obviously I have no objection to this and I escalate more on her as well.
Then all of a sudden that fucking song “I kissed a girl and I liked it” comes on and one of her friends comes diving in (like legit DIVING) and pulls the girl away from me.
I noticed all the other girls guys were in set with storm off to the dance floor. It was the craziest shit I had seen in a long time.
Fucking Katy Perry is the most unstoppable cock block known to man.
Anyway, she catches up with me after and says her and friends (the guy and the girl) are heading back to the hotel.
She invites me.
Two girls, two guys. The logistics are easy. But it’s still really early and I was not ready to “end the night.”
I take down her number and tell her I may swing by later. (I never do, oh well)
As they walk away I see her two friends that did not choose to leave.
One of them has two guys grinding against her.
Its not like hot though, she looks bored and it’s a little awkward.
I get eye contact from her and motion for her to come over.
She does not comply
I do it again
She mouths “later”
I come walking up. Scoop her from the two guys she is dancing with and pin her against the stage of the dance floor.
She is laughing super hard.
I pick her up, she wraps her legs around my waist and we do this weird hop grind thing.
I tell her “Told you that I would pick you up”
She laughs and I slowly let her down
However, I still had a boner so she feels it scrape down her whole body as I let her down. (I did not intend for that to happen)
She gives me a WTF look.
I look at her and go “That’s your friends fault.”
She walks away.
Who would have thought boner contact needs to be calibrated to the girl :P
Anyways, I catch up with Zebra and we decide to hit the streets. (Which by the way was the best venue of the night)
We test out ridiculous openers such as “Hey you, come here….” (The further away they are the better) and such classics as “Have you met my friend Tom Cruise/Orlando Bloom”
We continue to pump our “I don’t give a fuck” state with guys like Libido, Braddock, Ratisse, and just about anyone else that we encountered from the convention.
Zebra and I use a combination of ridiculous openers to open a super hot two set. It is going very well and they are making excuses why they would rather hang with us than go into the club.
I start to run “real” game on one of the girls but Zebra has not fully left his zero outcome dependant state and really drops a bombshell.
He gets the girls attention and says in a real seductive voice: “You know what I want to do? I want to get a big jar of mayonnaise…..and cover you guys with it. Then I want to take a napkin, and wipe it all off.” (Credit: Manwhore talking about what not to say)
Funny thing is, my girl does not seem to object to it but her friend is way too weirded and pulls the girl away.
I did not care because it was one of the most ridiculous things I have ever seen a guy say to girl.
Although… one of the lines we used a lot this night was “I want to start a company with you that makes bowling balls for the blind” so overall, most of our interactions were crazy and filled with ridiculous lines, so it was nothing I was not unused to.
Anyway after dicking around for the night Zebra and I decide to hit up the club one last time.
We enter and both have to go the bathroom but the club is way to packed to get from one end to the other.
We walk over to the V.I.P section and see if we can cut through.
That is when we run into “The Gate-keeper”
This girl is a 9.9 with looks alone (She could have been blonde) but she by far has the most value in the club. If I had to give her a number, it would be at least a 16 just cause of her value.
She decides who gets in and out of V.I.P
Zebra and I are no longer winging but pinging off each other back in forth just to see if we can get brief access to the bathroom.
When she says no I use the line “But I am very good looking” (One of our ridiculous line we were using this night)
She immediately throws it back in my face telling me how I should never tell a girl that.
I come back with “Its okay, I am not trying to pick you up.”
It’s on.
We eventually get access to V.I.P because some guy in there starts playing along and says “He knows us”
Slowly but surely, Zebra and I are removing this girls power trip frame.
Once we are in, we sit at one of the V.I.P booths, we decided to stay instead of go the bathroom cause we feared we would not be able to get back in.
The girl walks by and we have her sit between us.
Zebra and I are no longer winging.
We are using a deadly combination of my natural style game with his routine style game to create massive attraction in this girl.
I can’t even describe it but the whole interaction was a work of art. Two Pick Up Artists, working as one, to attract probably one of the most beautiful and high value girls in Orlando.
We give each other the “nod” that signifies “Worst comes to worst we can just double team her”
I immediately become more attracted to her as she guides people around the V.I.P section.
Guys would be moving around and she would push them down and be like “JUST SIT”
Looking back, I realized she was getting guys out of the way so she could talk to us more.
She even let some students from the convention into V.I.P cause we said we knew them.
She was in our frame. She knew it. So she tried to regain some power by pushing everyone else around. It was so hott.
We get her sitting again, this time, the kino escalation begins.
I had never feared for my life more than that night.
Literally every bouncer in the club was staring, no, LEERING, at me and Zebra.
She would literally have to tell guys that it was okay that we were talking to her.
She could have snapped her fingers and we would have been tossed out on the street corner.
Once again, it was so hott.
The club literally closes and we are still talking it up with her.
I get her number (She hides the fact that she is giving it to me so I don’t get beat up outside)
The next day she asks me how the convention is going (She saw my badge that I mentioned earlier)
I text her “Great, you can come, I will be outside by the door and you can beg to come in for half an hour until I finally give you the okay” (Reference to night before)
She says she is out with a bunch of friends but we make plans to hang out on Sunday. (Which get moved to Monday)
And yes, there is more to this story, go to the Under 21 Convention Journal Post: “Monday July 27th” to see what happens.